My mom hated "Fight Club." Bare-knuckle boxing, underground societies, Brad Pitt’s abs … it just wasn’t her thing. Why did I want to talk to her about it? There's something about that movie that resonates, something beyond the violence and mayhem. It’s not about the...
Building a more inclusive world starts with us. It starts with the conversations we have, the examples we set, and the questions we’re brave enough to ask. If we want our kids to embrace diversity and celebrate differences, we need to show them how.
Are you in a tug-of-war over how you care for kids, maintain the house, and do all of the things that life brings (finances, social life, fitness, etc.)? Time and energy are limited. We try to support each other but sometimes we get in each other’s way. The game is...
This question is the biggest challenge: how to get my book into the hands and thoughts and actions of the people who need to read it the most. If you have tried to start the conversation and your partner got defensive, I have some ideas for you! You may feel like you...
How do I get my partner to read this book? Let's start here: Your husband isn’t an insensitive asshole. He just plays one on TV. I wrote a book for him on how to be a better partner. I even illustrated it and kept it short. If your first thought was, “oh, he REALLY...
What is Father’s Day? Is it a day to honor your father? to celebrate your masc parental figure? or to give Dad a break? Yes to all of these, and … Today you get to make your own FREE Father’s Day card! (My Mom would be so proud that we are subverting Hallmark’s plan...
Parenting sucks sometimes. If you’re lucky, your kids take it easy on you. If you’re really lucky, they make you look like great parents. What if the little plastic arrow on the cardboard spinner of your Game of Life doesn’t land on the lucky side? Well, you can be in...
I feel like a fool. I just learned how to use Flonase. You don't understand. This is huge. I have taken Flonase for over 20 years. Today I learned that I have been wasting over 90% of it by using it improperly. The short version: Instead of allowing the medicine to...
Fatherhood is ego-bruising work. Isn’t it weird? I KNOW that I’m an expert but my kids make me FEEL like a complete novice. You manage a team at work. You exceed expectations. But this morning, you could barely manage to get the kids to school on time. The kids I...
“Why didn’t you honk at him?!” my wife Betsy demands, exasperated and angry with the driver who just cut us off. She would have laid on the horn but I swerved instead. Betsy’s question immediately triggers shame. Real men fight for their space. We are supposed to...
“You’re a Momma’s Boy!” Oh, the things we say! Why do we tell boys not to cry, not to show emotions or weakness? Are we trying to protect them? From what? One answer: a harsh world, a dog-eat-dog world. We are training Spartans who can “win the fight.” One of the...
No one listens to me. I give up. I'm tired of trying to tell you how I feel. You don't care what makes me sad, worried, or frustrated. These were the messages I learned growing up. They still dictate how I function most of the time. For instance, we spend a huge chunk...