In 2019, I offered parents three moves they could use in the face of escalating levels of anxiety in their kids: embrace curiosity to have the courageous conversation acknowledge the impact of parental stress leverage the connections in your family to increase your...
Why was I laughing and smiling last night while I was cleaning dog poo out of the crevices of the sole of my hiking boot? Three times in the last week, I have stepped in dog poo (and one time in old chewing gum). This never happens. Just to be clear: I’m not lucky....
Who is the first on the scene? That would be Worry. If you are a parent, you may already be a professional worrier and not even give a second thought to why you do it or how to stop. Wait, can I really stop Worrying? (Spoiler Alert: not really) Have you heard this...
Where do you get your best ideas? sitting at your desk? in the shower? Your best ideas come in the shower, right? Why is that? When you don’t need to multitask, when you just need to do a simple, automatic task like washing your hair, your mind is finally free to do...
My practice of psychology is expanding beyond the transactional. I feel compelled to integrate all that I have learned in the last two years, from the ongoing protests in Portland to calls to defund the police to the spotlight that social media has shined on the...
On stage at my first TEDx event, I recalled a turning point in my life. In the first year of grad school, my professor Marshall Swift, of blessed memory, played “Glinda the Good Witch” to my “Dorothy.” Sinking fast into the deep end of a pool of self-pity, Marshall...
My practice is turning from lone wolf to wolf pack. Pivoting my practice of psychology is not just a business decision. Now is a time for radical change. Our whole society, even institutions that deliver human services like mental health and education and health care,...
My practice is scaling up. We offer our client families more than the billable hour and our team harnesses the power of the mastermind effect. We provide what is in the highest service to our families, including assessment, coaching, and therapy. Our team is all-in,...
Real talk: men find lots of ways to escape. It’s kind of our superpower.
Physically, we go out. We hunt. We play golf. We hang at work. Emotionally, we check out. We game. We get lost in work. We smoke. We drink.
Seriously, now that you have had some time to adjust to the new reality of working from home, how ARE you doing? I really want to know.
How long is it healthy to regret your worst error? I’m working on a streak of about 46 years. Goldfish have a working memory of about 10 seconds.
In the exceptional new show “Ted Lasso,” the title character dispenses some Zen-like wisdom to a player who spends all of his energy stewing over his last bad play: “Be a goldfish.”
Raising and educating kids is hard work that requires a ton of resources and support. It is an investment in our future. So…
Why do we treat parents so poorly?
I love to run on the nature trail around Haverford College. Parts of the trail weave through trees that offer lovely shade and coolness. But those benefits also come with costs.
Feeling like I was gliding along on one early morning run, I tripped on one of those tiny roots in the trail, falling forward in slow motion, brutally landing on my hands and knees.